Should You Use Sex Toys in Your Relationship? (Here’s What Most Couples Get Wrong)
When it comes to sex toys, most women have these quiet questions swirling in the back of their mind...
“Do we really need toys to spice up our sex life… or does that mean something’s wrong?” or “Is it bad that I like using sex toys?”
To me, toys are not a bad thing at all BUT with that said, sex toys are not a replacement for connection.
They’re a tool for overflow. For more play. For turning up the dial on pleasure you’re already experiencing.
But most women (and couples) get this wrong…
Sex Toys Won’t Fix What You’re Not Willing to Feel
Recently I had a girlfriend ask me, “Chelsea, do you know where to get any good sex toys? ”. And I’ve had many clients as me the same thing.
The truth is—there are plenty of sex toys on the market. And a gazillion spots to purchase them. But I wanted a beautiful space I could trust where I could direct my clients and people I love.
Which is why I co-created with my amazing Mother our online luxury pleasure boutique Sex Like Diamonds™, where we have curated a luxury location for you to enjoy fabulous toys and lingerie that elevate your pleasure, not just fill a void.
Because pleasure is sacred.
At Sex Like Diamonds™, every piece is chosen with intention—designed to help you feel desirable, decadent, and deeply connected to your body and your desires.
From luxurious vibrators to sensual lingerie that drips in elegance, our boutique isn’t about fixing what’s broken.
It’s about adding more to what’s already beautifully alive.
Pleasure that feels like wealth.
Lingerie that unapologetically speaks, ‘I’m the prize.’
Toys that turn your bedroom into your sanctuary.
Because babe… diamonds aren’t just a girl’s best friend—pleasure is.
The Most Delicious Sex Toys? They’re an Addition—Not the Answer.
When it comes to adding sex toys into your relationship, the question isn’t if you should—it’s why you want to.
Are you reaching for a toy from a place of lack?
Or because your connection is already full—and you’re ready to play even more?
The best sex, the kind that leaves you breathless and blushing the next morning, doesn’t come from the toy itself.
It comes from:
Emotional intimacy
Presence
Connection that’s already moving between you
The toy just gives you more ways to explore it.
Pleasure Grows When You’re Already Overflowing
I’m a huge believer in abundance in pleasure.
That means the best time to bring in something new—a toy, a kink, a new adventure—is when you’re already feeling:
Loved
Desired
Connected
Because from that place?
The toy is just one more delicious thing to play with… not a lifeline to save what’s falling apart.
A good question to ask yourself … what energy are you bringing to them?
So many women—and couples—buy toys hoping it will fix something:
The spark that’s gone missing
The bedroom boredom that’s crept in
The emotional distance no one wants to talk about
It’s like having a baby to save a marriage or planning a threesome hoping it’ll magically reconnect you. That’s not how it works!
Want to Play in Pleasure (Without the Pressure)?
If you’ve been craving more—more passion, more connection, more toe-curling pleasure—but you don’t want it to come from fear or fixing…
That’s exactly what we do inside The Well Fucked Wives Club.
We don’t reach for sex toys to solve a problem.
We reach for them because our relationship is already rich—and we want to explore every last drop of it and with deliciousness dripping in diamonds.
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And remember … the real magic?
It’s never the toy.
It’s you.
Key Takeaways:
Sex toys are tools, not solutions: True intimacy begins with emotional connection, not devices designed to fix disconnection.
Desire is not a problem: Craving more in the bedroom is a sign of aliveness, not something to suppress or solve.
Luxury matters in pleasure: High-quality sex toys and lingerie reflect your worth and deepen your experience, not dilute it.
Energy is everything: The intention behind using a toy—abundance vs. lack—shapes the outcome more than the toy itself.
Overflow is the goal: The best time to introduce toys is when your love life already feels rich, connected, and full of play.
