X is for XXX - What to Do When Your Partner Watches Porn and You Aren’t Thrilled About It

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X is for XXX - What to Do When Your Partner Watches Porn and You Aren’t Thrilled About It

A concern that frequently pops up in long-term relationships is porn use. You might find yourself thinking, “Ugh my partner watches porn and I’m so not OK with it!” Sound familiar? If this is you read on.

The reality is that many men and women watch porn and it makes sense given it’s pretty dang accessible. I mean, as a kid there’s no way we could have imagined that you could not only watch video from a cell phone but also that a quick search would give you…

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W is for Wanting: How to Go From Wanting to Want Sex, to Wanting Sex

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W is for Wanting: How to Go From Wanting to Want Sex, to Wanting Sex

The number of times I have heard the phrase “I want to want sex but I don’t” has been too many to count. This is what often has many women come into my office asking for help. Their partner wants more sex and this puts them into a feeling of wide-eyed pressure and thoughts of “uhhhhh well I don’t want sex” and they feel stuck. This then creates a negative feedback loop which…

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V is for Vulnerability: The Glue of Your Relationship

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V is for Vulnerability: The Glue of Your Relationship

Vulnerability is the glue in life and relationships. Without it you would not be able to connect with those around you. Well you could but only on a surface-to-surface level. Vulnerability allows you to connect deeply from heart to heart. But as important and valuable as it is, vulnerability for many of you may be hard and scary. Actually I might even go as far as to say for most of you. Like words might not seem to explain hard and scary it is to express your desires, and needs. Sure maybe you can share…

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