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P is for Pleasure: How to Focus on Pleasure and Leave Pressure in the Dust
Last week we talked about the key elements of orgasm, including the body, mind, and vulnerability. Although it is helpful to know what is needed to contribute to the potential experience of an orgasm, I want to emphasize that orgasm does not necessarily need to be the sole pleasure goal when enjoying intimacy with your partner. Instead, intimacy is about a shared pleasurable connection and the best way to do this is to expand your intimacy focus so that you have a whole array of pleasurable ways to connect that isn’t focused just on orgasm…
E is for Expectations: How to Minimize the Pressures of Sexual Performance
Expectations are something that constantly enters my office as a therapist. When helping my clients with sexual and relationship concerns, expectation always rears its ugly head. One of the big expectations that many of us feel when it comes to sex is that we need to perform. It’s as if during sex we...
C is for Clitoris: The Internal Structures and Pleasure
The clitoris is an amazing part of a woman’s body and a very important aspect of many women’s sexual satisfaction. The pleasure-potential of the clitoris is astounding given that it is made up of nearly 8 thousand nerve-endings, which is double the number in the penis!¹ And don’t think the clitoris is only limited to the small pencil eraser-sized glans you can see poking out under its hood, there is a whole lot more than the eyes can see.
Speaking Up in the Bedroom
Sex is a conversation between bodies but we often find it difficult to include our voice in the conversation. Most of us aren't mind readers and getting the pleasure you need can turn into a frustrating guessing game for your partner... unless you speak up. But saying "Mmmm I like how you feel but can you use more pressure with your tongue" can be difficult for many to say. It takes a level of assertiveness as well acknowledging that you deserve to ask for the pleasure you want. For those moments when you wish you would say "a little to the left", building your comfort with being assertive is a great place to start.
What’s Your (Self) Pleasure Recipe?
In my previous post, I talked about having sex to stay healthy. In response to this post, a friend of mine commented, “I don’t have a partner so I’m missing out on sex and pleasure”. This got me thinking, what is sex?