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W is for Wanting: How to Go From Wanting to Want Sex, to Wanting Sex
The number of times I have heard the phrase “I want to want sex but I don’t” has been too many to count. This is what often has many women come into my office asking for help. Their partner wants more sex and this puts them into a feeling of wide-eyed pressure and thoughts of “uhhhhh well I don’t want sex” and they feel stuck. This then creates a negative feedback loop which…
V is for Vulnerability: The Glue of Your Relationship
Vulnerability is the glue in life and relationships. Without it you would not be able to connect with those around you. Well you could but only on a surface-to-surface level. Vulnerability allows you to connect deeply from heart to heart. But as important and valuable as it is, vulnerability for many of you may be hard and scary. Actually I might even go as far as to say for most of you. Like words might not seem to explain hard and scary it is to express your desires, and needs. Sure maybe you can share…
Q is for Quick Fix: Three Quick Fix Relationship Traps and How to Avoid Them
The best things in life do not come free or easily. Instead what you need to do intentional and manageable work to make sure you get the results that you want. When it comes to relationships, the results that many people want are to have happiness, connection, sexual intimacy and a relationship that is stress-free. You are totally able to have those results in your relationship and the best way is to make sure you take the right approach rather than getting stuck in the “quick fix” traps. The quick fix is when you are…
P is for Pleasure: How to Focus on Pleasure and Leave Pressure in the Dust
Last week we talked about the key elements of orgasm, including the body, mind, and vulnerability. Although it is helpful to know what is needed to contribute to the potential experience of an orgasm, I want to emphasize that orgasm does not necessarily need to be the sole pleasure goal when enjoying intimacy with your partner. Instead, intimacy is about a shared pleasurable connection and the best way to do this is to expand your intimacy focus so that you have a whole array of pleasurable ways to connect that isn’t focused just on orgasm…
L is for Love with Balance - The Importance of Balancing Interests to Sustain Love
Last week I talked about the 4 simple ingredients for keeping your relationship happy and one of those main ingredients was to show interest in your partner’s interests. This is an important main ingredient because you want to make sure that the things your partner is interested in you also show interest in. This doesn’t mean a total jump-in of your partner’s interests, however…
K is for K.I.S.S.: The 4 Main Relationship Ingredients for Keeping it Simple
Nowadays the internet totally bombards us with all these different ways to make your relationship better. Things like “how to spice up your relationship” or “how to have your partner want to have sex with you” and “ These are the new 5 sex position to try”.
Don’t get me wrong, spicing up the relationship is not inherently a bad thing. A fun new sex position to try out can certainly add flavor BUT you want to be careful you aren’t adding the spice before you …
J is for Just One Thing: How to Focus On Just One Thing to Create Big Relationship Results
Relationships take work but that doesn’t mean you have to be drowning in doing a ton of things. That would be a recipe for burnout and disaster. Instead you want to focus on one thing at a time and keep it small and simple. This allows for consistency, which is a key piece to …
H is for Helping your Partner Love You: Two Secrets for Relationship Success
I hate to be the one to break the news to you but try as you may you don’t have superpowers. I know! It’s a total bummer to know you won’t ever have any awesome mind-reading powers like Professor Charles Xavier of the X-Men mutants.
Not only can you not read your partner’s mind but…