As a therapist I see numerous relationships that are impacted negatively by the inaccurate myths that are thrown at us from the media, Facebook, porn, romance books, religion, trying-to-be-helpful parents or friends.

With the numerous inaccurate and negative messages out there that create harmful myths I want to help you re-examine what is good and what isn’t when it comes to sustainable relationships. Here are five of those myths…

Last week I talked about the 4 simple ingredients for keeping your relationship happy and one of those main ingredients was to show interest in your partner’s interests. This is an important main ingredient because you want to make sure that the things your partner is interested in you also show interest in. This doesn’t mean a total jump-in of your partner’s interests, however…

Nowadays the internet totally bombards us with all these different ways to make your relationship better. Things like “how to spice up your relationship” or “how to have your partner want to have sex with you” and “ These are the new 5 sex position to try”.

Don’t get me wrong, spicing up the relationship is not inherently a bad thing. A fun new sex position to try out can certainly add flavor BUT you want to be careful you aren’t adding the spice before you …

Relationships take work but that doesn’t mean you have to be drowning in doing a ton of things. That would be a recipe for burnout and disaster. Instead you want to focus on one thing at a time and keep it small and simple. This allows for consistency, which is a key piece to …

Leaning on spontaneous sex to run a satisfying sex life is a trap that many of us fall into because we aren’t given any help on how to do things differently. And don’t even get me started on …

I hate to be the one to break the news to you but try as you may you don’t have superpowers. I know! It’s a total bummer to know you won’t ever have any awesome mind-reading powers like Professor Charles Xavier of the X-Men mutants.

Not only can you not read your partner’s mind but…

Two key components for growing and sustaining a happy long-term relationship involves intentionality about being grounded within as well as focusing on the good of the relationship.

Step One: Focus on Being Grounded Within

When sustaining long-term relationships you have to take ownership around managing your own emotions and stress. Coming from a grounded place within yourself is key to…

How exactly do we give love and how do we receive love? And importantly, what does it have to do with sex and intimacy?

Sexual intimacy is a key piece that adds the yummy flavor to a relationship. It’s the bread and the butter but we often forget one very important ingredient to help with sexual intimacy, and that is emotional intimacy. It is the essential piece that is vital to ...

Expectations are something that constantly enters my office as a therapist. When helping my clients with sexual and relationship concerns, expectation always rears its ugly head. One of the big expectations that many of us feel when it comes to sex is that we need to perform. It’s as if during sex we...

Where desire is concerned, the brain is your target. Essentially, the more your brain is open to the idea of sex, the more desire can build. Alternatively, the more our brain is blocked, the less potential there is for sexual intimacy. What contributes to a brain being turned on or off to sex is

The clitoris is an amazing part of a woman’s body and a very important aspect of many women’s sexual satisfaction. The pleasure-potential of the clitoris is astounding given that it is made up of nearly 8 thousand nerve-endings, which is double the number in the penis!¹ And don’t think the clitoris is only limited to the small pencil eraser-sized glans you can see poking out under its hood, there is a whole lot more than the eyes can see.

The holidays are supposed to be a time for happiness, cheer and wonderful family experiences, right? For some this isn’t always the case. The effort to keep spirits high as the snow falls or the idea of spending time with a mother-in-law that constantly criticizes you might instead feel more like a Halloween horror. To help increase your enjoyment during the holiday season it’s important to have your boundaries in place.