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Self Intimacy: The Foundation of Your Relationship
Until this year it had been 7 years since I took a bath (don’t worry I showered!). What I mean is a nice, luxurious bubble bath. How do I know? Well, Facebook has their memory posts and a picture of a lovely bath set-up of mine popped up with the caption “7 years ago today…”. What was crazy was not only seeing that it had been 7 years since a clear representation of self-care but also…
Setting Helpful Boundaries During the Holidays
The holidays are supposed to be a time for happiness, cheer and wonderful family experiences, right? For some, this isn’t always the case. The effort to keep spirits high as the snow falls or the idea of spending time with a Grandmother that constantly criticizes you might instead feel more like a Halloween horror. To help make sure the holidays remain fun, it’s important to…
The Joy Codes: How to Live Joyfully
Have you heard of the fabulous Marie Kondo? She was quite the sensation several years ago and continues to this day with her books The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing , and Spark Joy, as well as her Netflix series. She’s all about tidying up your home by clearing out the things that no longer bring joy, and keeping only the things that spark joy in your home. Yes, it is important to have only the things in your home that spark joy but it is also essential that the things you do in your life also operate under the same concept. Meaning that you do the things that …
How Perfectionism Harms Your Relationship (and What to Do Instead)
If you are like me you have a part of you that strives for things to be perfect, or at least as super-duper close to perfect as you can get, in all areas of life. But when it comes to your relationship you can’t expect perfection (really we can’t expect it anywhere). I know this may be hard to hear for that perfectionist part of you, your inner ‘Miss Perfect’, but you have to have realistic expectations that you or your partner are not going to be doing things 100 percent all the time. Instead, we want to have a…
Doctor's Orders: Treat Yourself!
You are at the very foundation of your relationship. Yes, you. Without you, there would be no relationship. And because of this, you need to make sure that you are taking care of you! That means making sure that you are treating yourself positivity, with kindness and love and taking care of yourself in a way that honors you at the foundation of your relationship.
Y is for Yes: Three Scary Ways Your People Pleasing Sabotages Intimacy
I was out for a run the other day along a path I normally take where I curve around the field of a school. Usually, when I’m out running there are kids practicing lacrosse or football or some other sport. On this run it was baseball. As I ran by, a ball went over the fence. I had options. I could have kept on running because, well, it was their ball and those kids are agile enough to hop over the small fence. It wasn’t my job to help them out nor did I particularly need to. Or I could instead go out of my way and run off my path, grab the ball and throw it over the fence so they didn’t have to go out of their way. I chose this time to…
V is for Vulnerability: The Glue of Your Relationship
Vulnerability is the glue in life and relationships. Without it you would not be able to connect with those around you. Well you could but only on a surface-to-surface level. Vulnerability allows you to connect deeply from heart to heart. But as important and valuable as it is, vulnerability for many of you may be hard and scary. Actually I might even go as far as to say for most of you. Like words might not seem to explain hard and scary it is to express your desires, and needs. Sure maybe you can share…
G is for Groundedness: Using Intentional Breathing and Focus for Relationship Happiness
Two key components for growing and sustaining a happy long-term relationship involves intentionality about being grounded within as well as focusing on the good of the relationship.
Step One: Focus on Being Grounded Within
When sustaining long-term relationships you have to take ownership around managing your own emotions and stress. Coming from a grounded place within yourself is key to…