5 Powerful Ways To Love Yourself More
Perhaps you are new to the self love journey and wondering “how can I love myself?”. Or maybe you’ve been on the self love journey for a while and want to deepen your devotion to you. Wherever you are on your self love journey, a powerful way to infuse yourself with self love is to use the 5 Love Languages and apply them as Self Love Languages.
1) WORDS OF AFFIRMATION
How are you talking to yourself? Are you berating yourself with “I’m not enough” and “you’re ugly” shaming thoughts? Catch yourself when you go down these negative thought patterns and redirect them to loving words of affirmation from the truth of your soul such as: “I am enough” and “I am beautiful and divine”.
Because it can be tricky to catch yourself down negative paths once you’ve wandered down them, it’s also important that when you are in a good headspace to use that time to also infuse yourself with loving thoughts.
You can also tap into the FREE Self Love Meditations to support you with infusing yourself with loving thoughts.
2) GIFTS
When is the last time you got yourself a gift? Try getting yourself something special for no other reason other than because you love you. Remember, it doesn’t have to be big and fancy. Perhaps it’s a new journal or a new book at a cute book shop. Or maybe a small or large bottle of Get Naked Bubble Bath Soak from 100 Senses that is “Non Toxic and Supremely Sensual” (I have them myself and LOVE their bubble baths. Attn: affiliate link). Or you can totally go bigger and take yourself on that solo retreat you’ve always wanted to! When it comes to gifts… size doesn’t matter!
Play with the delight of not only getting yourself a gift but also receiving the gift. Allow your heart to open to receive the energy of love deep inside of you. Notice any hesitancies and thoughts of worthiness around the gifts such as “I don’t deserve that” or “I haven’t done enough to receive a gift like that”. This will point you to where some receiving wounds are blocking the infusion of love. It’s also a good time to use the words of affirmations such as “I am worthy of this gift because I am me, and that’s enough”.
3) PHYSICAL TOUCH
Receive your own love by moving and touching your body lovingly. Dance naked in the candlelight listening to music while touching your body where it calls you to infuse it with love. Pair this with words of affirmation and now we are compounding love. Perhaps use your new massage lotion you got yourself as a gift to touch yourself slowly and tenderly. Explore your body with love and touch yourself in self pleasure. You can even gift yourself a massage (yay touch and gifts!). There are so many ways to infuse yourself with love and touch.
4) ACTS OF SERVICE
There are so many possibilities for doing something loving for yourself! For example, although chores can often fall into obligation land, approaching them from love can have a very different feel. What would happen if from the lens of love you washed and hung up all your clothes in your closet. Because you know it’ll have you feel good. It’s a gif that keeps on giving because every time you look in your closet you will feel the love from past you taking the action to put the clothes away AND you can send love to past you through words of affirmation “thank you so much past me for loving me by supporting me in this way”. You can also take your body on a walk. Schedule that massage you’ve been meaning to (see how one love languages can start to weave into many different love languages?). Maybe it’s the action of reaching out to a friend for a coffee date to feel connection in your life as an act of love.
5) QUALITY TIME
Quality time has so many possibilities! You can slow down and spend some pleasurable time with you, yourself and you. Maybe use your Get Naked Bubble Bath Soak from 100 Senses during a soothing bubble bath. Perhaps enjoy some some slow and sensuous self pleasure rather than a quickie with your vibrator. Take yourself out for a dinner to celebrate your love for you. Celebration is the climax of self love after all, which we talk about in the Self Love Sanctuary program available inside the Love Library Membership.
You can journal and have some quality time with your thoughts and feelings. Spend time with your inner child by placing your hand on your heart and pour words of affirmation her way. Or perhaps you are more of an adventurer and playful woman and want to explore new food places around town or try a new activity. Regardless, the quality time that aligns for you is were you’ll be able to infuse yourself with the most love.
Take your time to explore with the different Self Love Languages and pay attention to what love languages have the most impact for you. And if you don’t know where to start, go with one of the ideas above that you felt drawn to or another idea that first popped into your head. You can’t go wrong because you’ll always learn if it’s something you loved or didn’t. Allow yourself to experiment and know that there is no need to do self love perfectly. Because you can’t do it perfectly! You’ve got a whole lifetime to love you, the important thing is to simply start.
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