This time last year I sat in a cabin in the mountains of Seattle with my family, snow outside, feet in fluffy socks and coffee in my hand while I reflected on my past year. I was reflecting on the concept of consistency after listening to a podcast and how it is key to all areas of life. It’s also a key value of Intentional Intimacy, but when I looked at myself and my business I realized that I was not being consistent. I thought: “How can I encourage my followers to show up consistently in their relationship when here I am not showing up consistently in my relationship with them?”.

In That Moment I Decided

I decided that in 2019 I wasn’t going to make any more excuses. Excuses meant I wasn’t showing up consistently. Excuses meant I would go weeks, then months (months!!) without writing my blog to help you and all the other amazing women out there. Months of not showing up for you is totally not OK just like it’s not OK for you to do so in the relationship with yourself and with your partner. I wanted to embody intentionality by showing up in the ARE way and to model that for you. I wanted you to know that when you wanted to reach out to me, to learn from me, to want to work with me, that I was there for you.

I didn’t want you to wonder where I was because that doesn’t create security in any relationship, whether romantically or between you and me. I wanted you to know that if you asked yourself “is Chelsea there?” the answer was a resounding “yes!” for you. So I made a decision that I was going to show up consistently for you and post a blog every single week. So on January 1st, I made the shift and I posted my next blog. Then the next week. Then the next week.

And You Know What the Silly Thing Is?

Often we spend so much time wondering, worrying, making excuses, and getting hard on ourselves for not doing what we want. And it’s silly that in one moment we can change how we show up in the world. One moment. One decision. You have that power within yourself. We all do. I know the power of one moment and decision because at that moment this time last year when the coffee was kicking in and my toes all nice and warm, I decided on consistency. And guess what? I did it. Every Monday since January 1st you have found me jumping into your inbox with a “Happy Monday!”. Or you have found me daily on social media.

Every Monday I have made sure to not let any excuses rob me from what I truly wanted. And on all those weeks when I showed up with consistency, I know some posts were wonderful and there were some that were not the best. And that’s OK. It’s important to have realistic expectations. There was also one exception when I didn’t post because it was one hell of a week for me emotionally, but that’s also OK. Remember, showing up consistently isn’t about perfection. When the norm is showing up, the times you don’t or the times where it's not amazing are understandable and won’t negatively impact how others see you.

Showing up Creates Highlights

When you show up then wonderful things happen and this year has been full of helpful content that I have so excitedly gotten to share with you. As I reflect on my year five posts have gotten the most attention and I want to make sure that as this year comes to a close that you get to enjoy the highlights. (Last year my “Top 5” would have been likely the only 5 that I actually wrote!). If you’ve been following me for that whole time, it will be helpful for you to soak in the information again for solidification. Often we need to hear the same thing over and at different times for the mind to fully grasp it. And if you are new to my world, the top posts below will help you know where to focus first. Regardless of if your new or an avid follower, I’m glad that I’ve been here for you and know that I’ll keep being here for you!