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The Joy Codes: How to Live Joyfully
Have you heard of the fabulous Marie Kondo? She was quite the sensation several years ago and continues to this day with her books The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing , and Spark Joy, as well as her Netflix series. She’s all about tidying up your home by clearing out the things that no longer bring joy, and keeping only the things that spark joy in your home. Yes, it is important to have only the things in your home that spark joy but it is also essential that the things you do in your life also operate under the same concept. Meaning that you do the things that …
A Powerful Secret to Positive Change in Your Relationship
Relationships, thank goodness, are flexible. They are adaptable and able to change. I know, I know, you may feel differently at the moment but bare with me. I want to share with you a powerful secret to creating change in your relationship if things aren’t going how you want them to. And it’s pretty simple when you think about it. Simple, but not always easy. That’s were the intentional work and focus come in. I know from first-hand experience, which I’ll get into below with a story about my dog Sherlock and my Husband.
Top Three Book Recommendations from a Sex and Relationship Expert
I am a huge bookworm and if you are too you are in for a treat! In this post, I want to share with you three of my favorite books that I recommend to anyone wanting to understand more about emotional and sexual intimacy. There are so many books out in the world, which can make it hard to know which ones to read. Although there are certainly other great books out there that I suggest, this post has three goodies that I don’t want you to miss out on!
Protect Your Relationship From the Dangers of Intimacy Limbo Land
Hundreds of couples have come to see me to discuss their differences in desire. What plagues these couples, and perhaps you as well, is that these differences, although not a problem if you know how to handle them, is what often drives one partner into Intimacy Limbo Land as a result. It’s a detrimental place that you don’t want to be part of your relationship. In this post, I’ll let you know
How Perfectionism Harms Your Relationship (and What to Do Instead)
If you are like me you have a part of you that strives for things to be perfect, or at least as super-duper close to perfect as you can get, in all areas of life. But when it comes to your relationship you can’t expect perfection (really we can’t expect it anywhere). I know this may be hard to hear for that perfectionist part of you, your inner ‘Miss Perfect’, but you have to have realistic expectations that you or your partner are not going to be doing things 100 percent all the time. Instead, we want to have a…
Create Easy Connection Using the ‘ARE’ Approach
In a past post T is for Transition, we explored four areas where transitions are so important in your life when it comes to you and your relationship. A great transition means you are attending to your mind, body, and soul in a way that lights you up like the sun on the inside. This helps you to move or “transition” into different areas in your life with more energy and openness. Transitions include when
How to Easily Share Emotions Without the Overwhelm
Oh emotions…
They are important and necessary in a relationship but the emotional world is often an area that catches most of us by the toe. If you didn’t have an upbringing where emotions were viewed as good, were shared, and validated then the emotional world can be seen as a bad thing you want to avoid. If this is you then you weren’t shown or told how to effectively share and receive emotions so that leaves many of us lost. Here I want to help put you on the road of Intentional intimacy and provide some clarity and safety around sharing your emotions in a way that feels “doable”- no overwhelm here.
How to Avoid the Relationship Triangle of Blame
In relationships we certainly want everything to go well. Smiles and hugs all around, right?. But it doesn't work that way. Instead, when you are in the dance of relationship with your partner, even when both of you love each other so very much, someone's toes are inevitably going to be stepped on and hurt will unintentionally happen. That’s just the nature of the dance since we are humans and we are going to stumble, fall and step on toes sometimes, even those we love a ton.