Let's be real – sometimes sex just isn't happening. Maybe it’s happening SOME time but it’s so infrequent that maybe you can count on both hands. And if it's not happening in your relationship, you may be asking what gives? As a licensed Sex and Relationship Therapist and international Intimacy Coach, I've seen it all, and let me tell you, it’s rarely as simple as a "magic fix." I also know from personal experience…

Interview on Sassy AF TV!: Intimacy and sex can be a touchy subject for In Demand Women! While we want to have fun, play and be sassy and sexy, sometimes we forget to let our hair down and enjoy the moments. Our special guest this week, Dr. Chelsea Page, is a sex & relationship expert who helps women break free being everything to everyone. We talk about how to release expectations around desire, orgasm and how to have more fun with intimacy (solo or with a partner!)…

Confidence is something that many seek help on, especially when it comes to sexual intimacy. If this is you then you may want to feel that when you enter the bedroom that you can feel totally good about your inner Miss Desire. But if you are like many women, you may not feel confident entering the bedroom. You may feel hesitant, worried, or have no idea what to do let alone feel confident about this part of you. Understanding the importance of…

The question of “How much sex should we be having” is one that I often get. If you are asking this question you are likely wondering if you and your relationship are at a normal frequency compared to others and thinking “Are we normal” and further “Am I normal?”. I totally get it, we all want to “fit in” and not be an outlier when it comes to anything that we do. We are social creatures and want to fit in and that means feeling normal…

I am a huge bookworm and if you are too you are in for a treat! In this post, I want to share with you three of my favorite books that I recommend to anyone wanting to understand more about emotional and sexual intimacy. There are so many books out in the world, which can make it hard to know which ones to read. Although there are certainly other great books out there that I suggest, this post has three goodies that I don’t want you to miss out on!  

If you are like me you have a part of you that strives for things to be perfect, or at least as super-duper close to perfect as you can get, in all areas of life. But when it comes to your relationship you can’t expect perfection (really we can’t expect it anywhere). I know this may be hard to hear for that perfectionist part of you, your inner ‘Miss Perfect’, but you have to have realistic expectations that you or your partner are not going to be doing things 100 percent all the time. Instead, we want to have a…

Your motivation for anything that you do in life doesn’t ever come from one sole source. Perhaps there’s a dominant reason, but because you are beautifully diverse there are often several motivations that lead us to do something, like have sex with your partner. In the previous post: 12 Common Motivations for Sex (Part 1) we got to dive into the first six of the 12 common motivations for having sex and here we will continue to explore the remaining six. 

If you think about the motivations for having sex you might think well, you have sex because you want to have sex. Now wouldn’t that be easy? If that were the case I’d be out of a job! That would be like saying we eat food simply because we want to eat food. Instead each time you eat food the motivation may stem from the biological urge of hunger, or your body is craving some iron, or perhaps you want to enjoy something yummy, because you are

As women, we go through many transitions not only from day to day but month to month like when we have our periods, and also on a larger scale through our own personal seasons. Pregnancy is also one of the times of big seasonal changes within your body and it is important to be aware of and honor the transitions or your body. Being aware allows you to understand the impacts on your sexual self. I want to break this transitional time down into the five seasons around pregnancy so that you can be more aware of what’s going on in your body so you can honor yourself and your intimate relationship with your partner.

If you are like me, I had spent years not being in tune with my body. As a recovering people-pleaser and woman on the go, my focus was outward. Knowing and honoring how I felt and how my hormones influenced my mood and energy was never something I even considered as a possibility. But it is vital as a woman to take a look inward including your monthly hormonal cycle to understand the ebbs and flows of your energy. Knowledge of our inner world is essential and luckily I have come a long way in understanding that I need to show up in the world based on the inside out, not the outside in. Join me on the inside and be curious about the ways your monthly cycle influences how you show up in intimacy with your partner and how to navigate the changes.

In the honeymoon phase of your relationship when things are new and exciting you don’t have to think about intimacy because everything just flows so easily. You don’t need to focus on doing things differently or with intention because you are in the flow. When you move more into the committed love space and keep approaching your relationship with the going-with-the-flow mentality rather than taking action, things are going to start flowing in the wrong direction unintentionally.

There are many ways that sexual desire can be blocked and having pain during sex is certainly one of them. And when there’s pain it would make sense that your desire to want to be intimate is going to float away like a balloon. The reason for this is that we avoid pain as humans at a primal level of protection (unless you are playing with pain as a way to access pleasure, such as a good smack on the butt). Since it’s important to have sex from a good, positive and pleasurable place we want to take any unwanted pain out of the picture. To start your process, make sure to as these five crucial questions so that you can begin to take the pain out of the picture and reclaim your pleasure.